All of that has left me with lots of posts in process and very little energy and creativity to write them. I've been more in the zoned-out blog-reading-and-occasional-commenting zone. There are posts coming...I promise. In the meantime, if anyone has tips for waking-up-way-too-early insomnia (vs. not-being-able-to-fall-asleep insomnia which most people's suggestions seem to be based around) I would love it! Like I said, things are getting better but I would really like to kick this thing to the curb. (My former MCH classmates have suggested a weekend bender...it IS Friday.)
So while you're waiting (with bated breath, I'm sure!) on my posts, check out some good stuff elsewhere.
Molly at First the Egg reposted a really kickass take on some of the discourses around "natural" birth:
Many such comments also seem to imagine that, while women who prefer unmedicated vaginal births are merely “out for the experience,” women choosing epidural pain relief in hopes of a more pleasant birth are somehow exempt from this criticism (that it is selfish and “fucking self-indulgent” to want an enjoyable birth experience). But, in general, these choices spring from a single impulse: to make the birth experience as pleasant as possible, according to an individual woman’s definition of “pleasant,” whether that primarily means “pain-free,” “empowering,” “intense,” “calm,” or whatever (all ranking AFTER, of course, “safe for mother and baby”). And it is wise and good to seek the birth that will be safest given your own medical situation and most satisfying given your own personality and history.
Dou-la-la on When DNA isn't just DNA:
There's an incredible pressure that many adoptees feel to only express gratitude for their situation, with the implied belief that their birth parent was an undesirable person from whom you have been rescued (open adoption is changing that somewhat, in many cases). Expressing any feelings of grief or loss marks you as an ingrate, an "angry adoptee", as Fugitivus mentions, and is seen as questioning the benevolence of one's birth parents. Sometimes even curiosity is unacceptable. Identity is the very definition of multi-faceted: biology is certainly not the only thing, but it is a very real piece of it, and absence of its knowledge can be felt as a loss. Yet wondering about the biological piece of your identity is often viewed as a slap in the face to the adoptive parents. How dare you want to know about these other people? After all we've done for you. Nurture is the only thing that matters, nature plays no part. We're your REAL family now.
Banned from Baby Showers shares tips on exclusive pumping:
Doctors and nurses might tell you that you can try, but they will most likely tell you that you WON’T be successful at it, especially not long term. They will tell you that your body will not respond to a pump, that a baby is much more efficient than a pump, and, well, why bother when you can go straight to formula? Trust me, ladies, you don’t have to. You CAN exclusively pump. Long term, if you want to! I’ve been doing it for 2 years for my son . . . yes TWO!
Note: Not all mothers can be successful with exclusive pumping, but these are great tips for giving yourself the best chance for establishing and maintaining a full supply.